MAINTAINING FOCUS

Importance of Focus

When we think of word focus , the immediate image which flashes into mind is of a table – Lamp. In Table Lamp houses a Bulb. A bulb , without the Table Lamp Cap spreads out light in all directions. What does the lamp shed does ? It actually manages the light. It gathers all the light going astray and directs it to the object , say the book. This increases the availability of light for reading.

Similary , it applies to our thoughts too. What happens from Morning to Night , from getting up to retiring, just try to visualize. We get up with a beautiful , fertile mind , with a happy mood in the morning. We plan our daily schedule. We decide to implement certain tasks . Then we take breakfast & leave for work. Slowly , the day starts coming up and pressures start to build up. Phone calls start coming , Wife or husband asks 100questions , Car window not opening, traffic jammed , Boss expecting you to be in time , Rains disturbing the whole schedule , 100s & 1000s of such things come up one by one.

AND …..

I forget what I had decided. I lose the sight of my tasks , intentions , goals. What happens here is :the thoughts start to flow astray , my actions , without direction. I tend to dwell upon certain thoughts which do not contribute to my plan. I completely lose myself in useless action. What to do ?

I just sit quiet , irrespective of whatever situation , for 10-15 minutes , with my cellphone switched off . I close my eyes , close the room door . I avoid making any plans , any decision making , if not wholly , but for these 15 minutes. These 15 minutes , I am nobody’s father , wife , husband. Let me be free ….. , free ….. , free.

Doing this exercise thrice a day , will take up your valuable time ? Not at all. You will come to know , when you do this for a week. The immediate consequence you observe is a tremendous energetic feeling , to take up task in hand.

Again you will be back to your work with a lot of FOCUSSED mind.

About Being Judgemental

Every day , every Hour , Every 5-10 minutes , we come in contact with various people , our own family members , friends , business contacts , friends , relatives , known , unknown , competitors , rivals , in-laws , the list is truly end-less.

What happens when one human being get connected to the other. Let me talk about me – myself. When I meet anybody – I immediately relate his face , his voice , his outlook , appearance to some images stored in my mind-memory. I try to find out which of my experience matches or near matches to his voice / looks , way of talking etc etc. Once I get a best possible match , I label him : This fellow is like this , that , and what happens further is that I DECIDE my actions , I plan my behaviour accordingly.

And this whole thing happens in what time ? In some seconds.

But , there is a bad news . Whatever I have thought about him can be entirely untrue , it can all go against my perceptions. So , what should I do , rather what I do ?- I have first decided to become non judgemental about anybody. How to do this. I do not ask him about his native place , where he belongs , as far as possible I even try not to know his surname , his caste etc. This stops my mind from further enquirying about the data stored in my memory bank & keeps my mind free from decision making.

In a fraction of a second , we make millions of decisions. Let the mind stop from it for some time!

LET US BE NOT JUDGEMENTAL!

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Life Flows !

Truly ! As we are living our day-to-day lives , we are faced with various situations. Every human being has a different reaction to a similar kind of situation. But it's absolutely obvious , isn't it so ?

Since we are Human Beings , it's absolutely okay to be human. To be human , is to have differences in opinion. So , when we are confronted with situations , where the opposite person does not agree to my opinion , don't try to overrule , instead , just accpet in your heart , that it's perfectly alright for him or her to have a difference of opinion.

Life is very fluid. It goes on , and on and on. Rather ...... it flows on & on & on

We can't change the happenings , but if i let myself soak into the situation , better are the chances of me , not to be drawn into my miseries , isn't it ?

Fantastic Power of Human Mind !

I CAN READ IT! CAN YOU


fi yuo cna raed tihs, yuo hvae a sgtrane mnid too.
Cna yuo raed tihs? Olny 55 plepoe can.

i cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno't mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres in a wrod are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it whotuit a pboerlm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt! if you can raed tihs forwrad it.



ONLY FORWARD IF YOU CAN READ THIS

Graphology - The Esteem Raiser!

KNOW YOURSELF MORE !
Graphology : Handwriting Analysing Tool

The accuracy level of reading a person like a book ( including you-yourself) is amazingly high. This science is known as ‘Graphology’.

Graphology is the science of understanding the human mind through person’s handwriting. When a person writes, the signal in the form of letters get decoded / printed on the paper by the fingers. Graphology aims at understanding & interpreting these signals through the writing. Using this we can know a persons mind so the thoughts, character and behavior.

This skill will let you perform better in certain areas like :
1: Understand yourself much better. :- Graphology helps an individual to know persons Strength & Weaknesses & see himself in totally new light. It can reveal various problems & its reasons which are associated with the past life. Graphology can help in understanding & removing the mental blocks to achieve greater personal & professional success.

2: Child development.:- Every child’s mind is programmed in the childhood by the influence of the male and female images in the child’s life usually the parents. Parents can understand their children in a better perspective & will come to know there strengths , weaknesses, likes, dislikes, Skills way of thinking, health & influence of their parents on him and can mould them to enhance their hidden skills for becoming better individuals of tomorrow.

3: Selecting Life-Partner.:-
Before marriage boys promises the moon & stars but latter on the girl gets disappointment , the picture after marriage is not the rosy. Graphology (Handwriting analysis) can help in selecting the right partner as per the true picture of Boy / Girl.

4: Selecting Business Partner. :- What is your business partner is good starter and poor finisher ? What if he is a big deceiver? What if he can’t face pressure ? selecting Business partner is equally important as life partner. Graphology can help you to select right business partner who can take right decisions & actions at right time.

5: Employee Selection / Recruitments :- Graphology can help in selecting right peoples for the right job. E.g. if a company wants to recruit excellent team players or fast analyst, creative artist, etc. Graphology can help in identifying these individuals by / via their handwritten samples & this can easily benefit the individual & organization.

6: Criminology.:- Graphology can assist police department in solving crimes related to the burglary thefts, suicides & even murders. Graphology can speed up investigation via writing & signature of a suspect & solve Cases.

7: Knowing Your Friends, Colleagues, relatives, etc. :- Know the every aspect and hidden aspect of personality so that you will understand them much better with reasons and will improve relationships.

Almost innumberable are the possibilities to explore

What do you imagine ?

Every morning , i get up with a fresh body & fresh mind set to take up new challenges life has set for me. Sometime my morning starts up worrying , sometime it starts with optimism , sometime with lethargy. I always feel -- i am holding something. What is it ? What is it ? It's a thought. How to get rid of it ? Just release the thought. To do this , try deep breathing. Then imagine you are in a place which your mind memorises greatest & happiest moments of your life. Where you have been at ease with the situation. Absolutely comfortable. Say you were on a trip to Kasmir OR Taking Sun Bath at a beach OR enjoying great anniversary with your spouse. Imagine that & let yourself melt into the situation.

After a few minutes of this exercise , you will find - a complete release of negative energy - the worry , the anxiety , the fear , the excitement has gone and ??? you are a free individual , like a ball , a child who knows nothing but dancing here & there. Try this !

Pls Never Skip Exercising !

As an individual , willing to improve my life , i have been listing out daily some things which i want to INCLUDE in my life and some things to EXCLUDE . There were a huge no. of tasks on both of these lists. I wanted to tackle all of them at once! This is how my list used to be :- 1. Get up early 5-30 2. Exercis - 6-30 , 3. Meditation 30 mins , Dieted Breakfast , office jobs , some domestic work , time wit kids , family. The list was enormous. I used to get it for max 1,2,3,4 days. Then used to strat the declining pattern. And the result ? Frustrations of not performing the work & resulting in - Losing Self Esteem. Flow of Negative thoughts : "I am never able to continue anything " OR " I am a good STARTER only" OR " See once again i have lost consistency" . These kind of sentences lower our self esteem.

To overcome i have learnt one simple trick : Dont take them all one day. Take one by one. Target small.Little But be consistent. Keeping our diets proper , also raises the flow of positive emotions. You want to know what to eat & what not to ? Click Here!

To conclude : Keep diets & whenever feel low , go to exercising. Bring SELF ESTEEM BACK.

Do You Spend time to look -------IN ?

More Often than not , everyone seems to be too busy involved in performing daily required tasks-the tasks demand our decision making from time to time. The decisions may be very simple as to which conveyence should I use , I should go to Hospital or Not , I should call this person or not etc etc.

Every moment the mind is busy taking various deceisions. As we do it for our Body , we give it a rest whn exhausted, we should rest our mind also. This can be done 2-3 times a day for 15 minutes each time. During the same what one has to do ? - Nothing. Surprised ? Yes - Nothing. How to do nothing? From childhood we are told to , taught to do something always. This looks very very funny. Has Saumitra gone mad ?

Try dear. Close your eyes. Cut out yourself from the world for 15 minutes. Switch of the Cell , Off Hook the landline. Nothing will happen - believe me. Now remove the pressure of performance for this time. only for 15 minutes.Forget your roles - No Father, No Manager , No Wife , No Husband ----- just nobody.

Thoughts - what to do to them ?. Let them keep on coming , dont resist. Imagine you are riding a bicycle on a slope. What do you do ? The bicycle goes on - so thoughts , you should not pedal , dont think-dont react. So the mind will be free from decision making for 15 minutes. You will feel very fresh after this resting process , like getting up in Morning.

This is Meditation. Try

Have you given your 100 % ?

Right from childhood we are taught to be overprotective about everything. Don't go to the top floor , dont enter the balcony , dont travel in night, bla bla.....

After graduation , get a safe job , get steady rises , get married to a right - (?) girl , see whether she is working . Everywhere overfocussed on ------- NOTHING SHOULD GO WRONG .

In running own enterprise also - deal with safe parties , take payments properly , dont spend on R & D etc etc etc. NOTHING SHOULD GO WRONG.

Quite rightfully so , we should prepare ourselves in direction of NOTHING SHOULD GO WRONG.

But even after that sometimes it may go wrong. What happens to me ? Panics. Stomach ulcers. High heartbeats. Consistent worries. Headaches. What to do ?

First - tell yoursekf : It's perfectly alright if the situation is not okay. It happens.Then accept whatever worst is going to happen - mentally. This will immediately relieve you from great stress. Now give your 100 % to prevent the worst from happening , without looking back & yes ....... FORWARD also. Our whole attention should be completely focussed , we should be fully involved in the work situation demands , worrying is perfectly useless.

GIVE YOUR 100 % HERE. After all whatever happens need not let you curse yourself , no need to drown into- "Something Wrong with Me" type of thoughts.

Life is a game - a test where HE (God) plays the card & looks upto you whether you enjoy the play or be miserable.

Hey ! I kept myself very coooooool today!

Today & yesterday as well , I had decided to maintain my cool , 2-3 days back ,I had lost my temper on some very minute occassions . So stupid of me ! But daily morning , I am reducing my thoughts to my dear diary.

It's done during morning , when after a deep deep sleep , our minds are empty & fully ready to face this world with chin up. I am observing - if we do not let our negative emotions be carried during the whole day with alert mind , we tend to act - as to what best can I do in a problematic situation.

See - any incidence - when it happens - causes something inside us. It may be good feeling Or Bad feeling. The incidence by itself does not matter much , but the reaction we offer to it. See- any damn thing , which is happening in our lives prompts us to do something about it. If whatever we do to it , is right the consequence will be towards a solution OR getting ahead. But if we react emotionally , the consequence may not be towards getting ahead. Simply - let us not react to the situations emotionally.

Instead try to gain some time to react. May be an hour , may be a day or two. But never try to dig answers instantaneously to a fatal challenge. The answers will come automatically from your subconcious , may be when you are playing with your kid , going out for a walk or so on.

Try this.

How I performed today

I maintained a very nice frame of mind today morning. I had decided to remain very calm & quiet, was not much a success. Morning I meditated , noon , did not. Evening went for a walk.

During a meeting session , got upset with one of my collegues. Lost my temper a little bit

How to achieve composure again ?

I believe only maintaining a beutiful mind frame one can be better & Better , isn't it so ?